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RULES,
ADVICE & GUIDELINES
FOR
HYPNOTHERAPIST REGISTER
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Introduction
This forum is
for the benefit of all Hypnotherapists whether they are newly
qualified, or have many years of experience behind them.
It was set up to
facilitate discussion, and offer help and support for everyone.
We cover
everything from very simple questions, to advanced, in depth
debates. Contributions from everyone are welcome.
The group has
proved itself to be an invaluable source of information and
assistance, which is all generously contributed by the members
themselves.
New
Hypnotherapists are joining all the time, and of course they may
repeat questions which have already been asked. Even so, we often
find that some new aspect of a subject may be brought up when that
subject is revisited, and in any case the answers are still of
interest to other new therapists.
However, you
also have the facility of searching the files for previous coverage
of your query, and you may wish to do so before asking your
question.
RULES
We have three
simple rules for contributors:-
NO
unpleasantness NO personal attacks and NO bad language.
WARNING
If a post
includes a personal attack on another member or any offensive
material, the offending member will be given an immediate one month
BAN from posting to the group followed by a further one month of
having their mails moderated before they can be posted onto the
group.
The offending
member will effectively be blocked from taking part in any further
discussion on that subject, so please be sensible and watch your
language – think before you act.
If you really
must argue – do so OFF group.
Please also
be aware that unsubstantiated derogatory statements against
individuals or organisations could be
considered to be libellous.
If anyone
oversteps the mark to the point of becoming seriously unpleasant or offensive,
we reserve the right to remove them permanently from the group without further
notice.
GUIDELINES
We discuss an
enormous range of subjects relating to Hypnotherapy, and in the
past, on very rare occasions, the debate has become a little too
inflamed. This has resulted in complaints from some of our members
who, understandably, much prefer reasoned discussion to heated
argument.
Although we
encourage lively debate, and do not want to impose too many rules,
we have decided to ask everyone to observe the following guidelines
when contributing.
We realise
that most of our members are polite, sensitive and good humoured,
and will not really need this advice, but please read it anyway, so
that we all know where we are.
(1)
Contributors should (of course) keep within the boundaries of
general politeness and courtesy.
(2) Be
careful how you say things.
It is easy to
fire off a quick email to the group, but please give some thought to
what you are saying and how you are saying it.
When speaking
face to face we all use tone of voice, facial expression and body
language to help express what we mean, but the written word does not
have any of these advantages, so please bear in mind that other
people might read what you have written differently to how you meant
it.
It is possible
to sound more forceful or even more aggressive in print, and we know
that misunderstandings can sometime spark off hostility, so please
take a little care to express yourself as clearly and accurately as
possible.
Also be aware
that you might be misconstruing what the other person is trying to
convey, so try not to over react.
“I know you believe you understand what you think I said,
but I am not sure you realise that what you heard is not what I
meant.”
Patrick Murray.
(3) Write as
if you are sharing information friend to friend
- which is what you are doing.
(4) Avoid
‘laying down the law.’
(Nobody knows it
all).
Express your
view as an opinion, not as an absolute fact.
(5) Avoid
personal attacks.
If you disagree
with something, disagree respectfully with the idea rather
than the person (e.g. “Let’s look at this in another way” or “It
seems to me …” rather than declaring “That is a stupid statement”
or “You are wrong”) and then put forward a thoughtful, reasoned
argument of your own.
(6) Put your
brain into gear before you hit the keyboard.
You may feel
passionately about a subject, but if you catch yourself rushing to
say something critical or a bit aggressive, please stop and think
for a while.
Do you really
have to say it like that, or could you word it a little better, to
prevent the possibility of causing bad feeling?
(7) Be
respectful and sensitive to other people’s views and feelings, and
don’t be too quick to criticise other schools of thought.
One of our
members once declared that he thought a certain branch of
Hypnotherapy was ‘a load of rubbish.’ However, we mustn’t forget
that some people (due to not really understanding the subject) think
Hypnotherapy in general is ‘a load of rubbish’ too.
Unless you have
studied a subject in detail, you are not qualified to dismiss it out
of hand.
IN GENERAL,
just watch what you say - and say whatever you want to say in a
reasonably polite and friendly way.
As a
Hypnotherapist, diplomacy, good manners, and the ability to
understand where the other person is coming from, are essential
qualities.
If things ever
get a bit overheated in a discussion, try to be ‘the good guy (gal)’
and use your skills to get things back on an even keel. You will
not ‘lose face’ by doing so; in fact other members who are
witnessing the debate will certainly respect you for it.
I hope new
members will not be put-off by the above. I assure you that the
vast majority of our members are always extremely friendly.
We hope you will
enjoy your membership of the group, and find it helpful,
entertaining and informative.
ADVERTISING
Past discussions on the group indicated
a fairly equal split between members who wanted a
complete ban on advertising and those who would like to receive details
of seminars and special offers to group members.
Therefore the following compromise has been made:
Advertising of seminars etc will be allowed
on the group under the following guidelines:-
Please put `ADVERT' at the beginning of the
subject line.
Please keep the advertising content to a
maximum of 100 words, with a web link to more information.
Please also restrict the information to ONE
posting per event.
Information can also be included under
`Calendar' – `Events' so that member’s can easily find the information
if they want to.
A discount for group members is appreciated
and most advertisers already give discounts.
Those members who do not wish to receive
details of seminars etc. can of course just delete mail with ‘ADVERT’ in
the subject line, or if you are using Outlook for your email you can
avoid receiving the advertising altogether by Creating a Rule that will
send all mail with ‘ADVERT’ in the subject line directly to your Junk
Mail folder.
For anyone who is not conversant with this
Outlook function, you can find some instructions in the group files
under ‘Create HR Inbox.’
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